Note/Advice on Judging Others, from personal experience

I’m not smart. I don’t know exactly where the dishes go in the dish washer and I don’t know much about politics or government. I didn’t get a high ACT score like everyone else in high school nor did I get any special scholarship. I want to do a lot of things, but I’m constantly distracted by school, people, and laziness. I become quiet when I can’t find anything to talk about with someone that I’ve been around for only a few months (personal dorm problems).

I’m not the prettiest person, nor am I the smartest, or even the kindest. 

We try so hard to become a person we strive to be, but many things hold us back. We’re pressured by anxiety, or the judgmental views of society, or how we’ll be seen when we wear sweatpants or the same t-shirt three days in a row. We’ve slowly grown into a society that judges by how we look or what our place was in high school. Were we smart? Or were we not so smart? Were we nicknamed druggies? Were we nicknamed sluts or inexperienced? Or were we someone that was just trying to find our place in the world? 

We need to start forming into a society that will accept someone for who they are or what mistakes they made to get to the better them. We need to stop judging someone just by how they look or how smart they seem to be or what sexuality they are, or whatever else. 

It’s ok to be hanging out with someone and silence fills the gap. If there’s nothing to say, there’s nothing to say. Learn to enjoy the silence of just being in the same space as someone. It’s ok to be awkward in any situation. It’s ok not to know where the cups go in the dishwasher or what the density of a car is. There’s a lot of things we don’t know, whether it’s common sense in someone else’s eyes or not. If it’s not common sense to us, then it’s not common sense. We learn and move on. 

There’s a lot of things that make us feel inferior or dumb, but it’s all a learning experience that we need to just take in and walk in stride with it. This was just something I thought would be encouraging to all and I hope it did encourage you. If you ever need advice on anything, you let me know. Let your friends know. 

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Choose Your Own Lifestyle, Not Someone Else’s

Hey there all! So it’s freezing cold here in my town, but it’s not surprising since weather here is very bipolar. This week is supposed to be in the 70’s, but right now, it’s 47 F. Anyways, enough weather small talk. Hope all is well in your guys’ area! 🙂

So I realized something this weekend that I haven’t gotten a chance to put into words on this blog. If you want to have an organized life, then you should choose a style that works for you. In clothing, styles, little habits or regular day by day things, anything and everything. I’m currently in the process of trying to find my own personal lifestyle. For example, I’ve realized that I’m very much like a tomboy. I’ve tried so many styles throughout my life, but the only thing that seems to fit me is the tomboy style. I don’t usually dress like a girl, at least not very often. I’m very plain and simple. 

Choose something that works for you. Maybe you like to wear dresses and skirts all the time. Maybe jeans is your thing. Sometimes sweatpants all the way. Depends on what makes you most comfortable. After you’ve chosen what style fits you, think about some of your daily routines. Think about food that makes you feel good or what makes your body healthy. Now turn that into a habit and don’t stray from it. 

I believe that if you’re organized in your own way, your mind will be at ease. Busy weeks will become smooth and you’ll take care of everything easily without a thought, because you stayed true to yourself and to your habits and style. I’ve said this before, but don’t be like everyone else. Sure, you might be similar to someone, but choose something that’ll make you happy, not what might make you accepted to a certain social group. If we all did this, we could all get along just a little better and there wouldn’t be so much drama of who’s the copycat or who’s sticking to their friends like glue because they want to be just like them. Do you see what I’m saying?

Just have fun with the life you have. Choose something right for you that’ll make you happy 🙂